Hitherto Unknown Secrets !



Every married woman wishes that her husband be always under her spell ! To fulfill this desire of theirs ,women seek many tricks and tips and try various ways !  To make women understand the the veracity of such attempts Mahalaxmi resorts to a question to Draupadi !

Once while in Pandavas were in  vanavasa , Srikrishna along with Satyabhama [ avatara of Srimahalaxmi ] visited them ! Satyabhama while sitting near Draupadi , asks her

“Draupadi  you have five husbands ! You are a pativrata of highest degree , Even Lord vedvyasa has declared it in full sabha of Dhritarashtra [ Hastinapur ] ! now there is no doubt on this topic ! Your husbands are very powerful ,they can be compared  in valour with LOKPALAKAs . Your husbands always stay together as joint family . They never think of even separating . To maintain such a family is impossible . But you seem to be at very ease in maintaining them . This is very surprising to all the people in the world . Its difficult to get along well with one husband itself , patiently getting along well with five is a great feat ,how do you manage this ? There is not a single instance of Pandavas having angered on your behaviour or getting upset with you . They never go against your word either ! They have no complaints about you at all ! Not a single reason for dissatisfaction among them ! Their faces are testimony to all these. What is the reason for this extreme cooperation among them towards you ? Do not hide anything ! Let me know everything ! Let me the real secret ! I too want to apply the concept on Srikrishna  and keep him under my Control ! Such mighty Pandavas are under your sway for this you must have used some trick ? What could be this trick ? is it MANTRA ? or is it a MEDICINE  ,a CONCOCTION  ? or is it some VRATA ? or is it due to special bath in some river or pilgrimage ? or is it any special VIDYAA ?  What is that trick that has enabled you to enslave your husbands ? LET ME KNOW ? “

Draupadi replies “ Oh MOTHER ! You are ALL KNOWING ! DOUBTS , QUERIES do not emanate for the fully knowledgeable person ! YET your query is not for the clearance of doubt , many satvik people have these doubts and you want them to be clarified through me and hence you have asked this question ! AND thus it is my duty to answer this ! FIRST OF ALL THE QUESTION IS NOT CORRECT ? IT IS EVIL TO DESIRE TO KEEP THE HUSBAND UNDER CONTROL OR UNDER OUR SWAY OR ENSLAVED !  Applying tricks to achieve these is still more evil ! To think this way and women thinking as such are evil personified ! To answer such women is itself a sin ! satvik women under the influence of evil women should never apply such measures !

The moment any male gets a feeling that his wife is applying certain measures to keep him under control via mantra medicine etc. ,that very moment fear enters his  mind . He gets a feeling that he is in fact living with a poisonous snake in the form of his wife everyday in his house . He fears even to enter the house !  One who is ever gripped with fear , how can he be peaceful ! Peace is not possible for him even in dreams ! One who is not peaceful how can he ever be happy ?

Many feel that pleasure objects , sense objects and material prosperity are the fundamentals of happy life . This is fallacy .  Those who are materially prosperous even they are not happy , this is widely experienced in this world ! Even if materially not prosperous, still there are people happily living the life , even this is seen in this world through experience !Thus I feel that peace is most important and fundamental to the happiness and joy in this world . If husband is not at peace then how can wife live peacefully ! That peace will be a mirage ! SO any women who wishes to be happy and peaceful will never think of enslaving their husbands or apply measures and  tricks to keep them under control ! And just by mantra husband cannot be under control , its not possible forever !

I will tell you my own day-to-day lifestyle , this can be taken as sadachaar ! Sadhvis must tread the way that enhances saumangalya ! I will humbly  present  before you  [ rather recite what I know like  a good student before a teacher , as MAHALAXMI is all knowing] the methods that are fundamental to soubhagya !

What is not desired by the husband I never desire them at all . My husband cannot be without me , this feeling I never harbour . I do not have pride on account of my high birth , my beauty my lustre , my youth or my wealth . Pandavas have other wives also other than me . I look at all of them with respect . I do not think of other men nor do i look at them . I eat after Pandavas have eaten , I take bath after the have taken their bath . I sleep after Pandavas have gone to sleep and also after all the servants have completed their work and meals .

When my husband returns after a tour ,forest or their work , I welcome them with smile and a happy fame of mind . And knowing their tiredness , i arrange for water to wash their feet, arrange beds and chair and other furnishings to relieve their travel fatigue .

I use the appropriate vessels for appropriate work ! I sincerely lookafter their cleanliness. I cook varieties of food items in interesting manner and feed my husband and other dependents at appropriate times . I keep tab on the grains and stock in an updated manner . I see to it they do not get wasted or spilled everywhere . Time to time keep the household clean and sanitised . I never speak to anyone in a demeaning manner . I see to it that my words never hurt my husband . I do not resent anyone with words and deeds . I do not entertain or associate with evil women at all . For dharma and its application association of evil women is detrimental . I never show laziness with respect to dharma and my duties towards my husband .

I do not laugh without reason . I do not stand at doorstep at every second . I will never stay alone in uninhabited place . Will not wander alone inside as well as outside in gardens . Do not speak much . Always wear a happy look . Do not disturb others in their work . never laugh at workers , nor speak with extreme even if there is a fault . I would never make others angry too . My speech brings good to satvikas and my husbands service is my worship . Without husband even a second is waste for me .

When husband leaves the house and town for some work , i do not use flowers and perfumes and articles of decoration . I keep various vrata and niyam during such periods . Even if I like certain things I would never go for it if it doesnt suit my husband’s taste . I forego such food and clothing voluntarily .

I sincerely follow all that is told to me by my husband for my own good . I decorate myself  for the happiness of husband and accompany them in their hobbies and works that are of interest to them . I take part in their ventures .

I listen to my mother in law and her sermons with utmost sincerety and bring them into action as per her directions . I follow utmost care and sincerety during bhiksha bali and shraddha and other preparations of santarpana. I stay in front to welcome the respected and elders . And whatever dharma I know ,I follow it with niyam . And during such attempt and practise I forget even day and night in carrying out my duties .

I strongly believe that wife should be under the shelter of husband and to she shoudl carryout it with full enthusiasm .Husband is  a devata and husband is the wealth for women , so for such loving husband which women would not spend a lifetime .

No women should try to surpass husband . This is detrimental to her siddhi . so in clothing etc i do not wish to surpass husband . I do not talk ill of mother in law . I keep utmost care in this issue . I never behave in a uninhibited manner before elders and always take note of their words . Looking at these qualities my husband always like to listen to me . I need not go for any special tricks to keep them under sway and control .

My mother in law is a qualified lady . qualified with many good qualities and auspicious too . Just by the fact that she has given birth to such valorous sons good with many auspicious qualities is pointer to her soubhagya  and greatness . Kuntidevi is steadfast in TRUTH . This fact is ever present before my eyes . I do her service personally , under no circumstance do I delegate my duties with respect to her to anyone . Her food , dinner ,medicines , service  everything i personally do it . I beget extreme satisfaction by doing this all through the day . My mother in law PUTHADEVI is equal to PRITHVI herself when it comes to patience .

In my Husband’s house first everyday 8000 Bramhins eat in golden plates . Then 80000 graduate students [ bramhins ] and then 80000 gramhasthas have their food happily . Apart from this Yudhisthir has 100000 personal assistants . each has 30+30 dasis  . All these peoples welfare and food and other responsibilities Yudhisthir has given it to me ., part from this 10000 yati[ sanyasis ] also eat daily in our household .

After the vaishvadeva of all these bramhins, Then family members eat . This default sequence is never missed and I look after these arrangements everyday . These bhojan [ food distribution ] happens with all gait ,pomp and respect . I personally give all of these bramhins , ahaar, tambul ,vastra and dakshina  everyday with devotion and respect to the satisfaction of each .

There are special dasis for Dharmaraj , they are one LAKH in  number , they wear thick gloden necklaces around necks and in their arms .Some are completely bejewelled and readily available for service to help in managing . Another One LAKH paricharikas specialised in songs and dance and music . I know each of these skilled and unskilled labours’ names , interests , hobbies , their likes and dislikes with respect to food habits and clothing .I see to it they get those food and articles of their taste and liking time to time  to their satisfaction and happiness . I supervise and monitor all the work  given to these , I schedule their works according to their abilities and manage it to the best of the situation to keep the schedule on time without lapse and delay and to perfection .

Apart from the above there are another one lakh set of dasis whose work is to serve food day and night with a plates in their hands . Another set of Lakh dasis look after the guests . This is their work . I schedule their works and employ them appropriately .

There are paricharaks inside the antahpur [ palace ] and outside , apart from them , there are gopalakas , manual labours , security guards , whom I keep watch on and pay timely salaries to them all . I keep tab on the accounts of these all through my work schedule . Apart from paying salaries and auditing , I do see that their other needs are also taken care of and fulfilled and they live a comfortable life .

While doing all these I keep special thought process on what should be done to increase the wealth fame and prosperity of  PANDAVAS . I monitor the gains and expenses [ credit and debit ] of all the PANDAVAS , and I do keep them secret as well . I also control their expenses . Pandavas also have given me all these responsibilities of the family with utmost confidence in me . They go about their daily chores without worrying about all these and carry out their duties as worship to the LORD Krishna .

I too keeping my personal comforts aside , carryout these duties as a worship towards my husband with all happiness , And do not mind about day and night in carrying it out and this is my worship to the allmighty as well .

I sleep after Pandavas sleep and I get up before PAndavas get up . i never give  a feeling of having too much work to do .Those who carry out work with Love they never complain about the work .

This is the secret for keeping my husband under control , apart from these I donot think anyother methods or indulge in tricks . Rather I do not require any other tricks , What evil women resort to , I do not approve them and there is no happiness in that .

OH jagan MATE ! I know only this much and What I do is only This ! You know all these ! yet I have told all these only to carry out your order ! That was my duty ! “

Draupadi resumed her calm after this !

LAxmidevi SATYABHAMA became very happy with her answer and and Embraced her with all the blessings .

THese words of DRAUPADI DEVI are eternal and apply to all satvika stree . By treading this path of Draupadi devi MAHALAXMI’s blessings will be definitely there is what this story suggests .

Krishnarpanamastu .

Note : this story indicates clarifies many things about our culture and position of women in our society . It is a big fallacy that women were not educated . women had utmost education , they were educated to be good managers. MANAGEMENT of time , management of resources , management of workforce , management of money , management of material , auditing . supervision , scheduling , multitasking , training of staff , decoration , art of managing events on a day to day basis . if everyday affair was so celebrating , then celebration would have been more innovative .

Apart from doing all these giving personal attention to family members , it is no doubt every girl was trained to be  a superwoman !

Comments on: "Stree dharma–Duties of women !" (34)

  1. Sir,
    It is true that a woman has to do her duties and a good husband would love and respect her for that. But what if the husband himself is prone to temper,insecurity and projects a need to be in constant control of his wife? what if her in-laws want to take advantage of the wedge between the wife and husband and themselves have no moral standing. What is the wife supposed to do? Should the wife think that it was a flaw in her that associated her with such a husband in the first place? or should she bide her time so that her praarabdha karma is done with. Kindly advise.


  2. Kiran Kumar said:

    Sri Hari Vaayu Gurubhyoh Namaha,
    Namaskaara Chiraanji Gurugalige,

    Dear Guruji, this article is one of the most profound one that i have ever read. It deals with all the aspects of a Sati Dharma and how a Pativrata like Draupadi has very modestly replied to Mother Goddess Satyabhama ( Avatar of Sri Lakshmi Devi). It illustrates all the divine qualities that a woman ought to follow, it contains forbearence, sustenance, patience, management, sincerity, committment and above all the chaste nature and humble attitude to serve husband and be ever faithful. As rightly said, husband is the true Guru for a wife and Draupadi Devi has exhibited all the divine qualities of a Pativrata and it is a guideline for all the women folk to follow these qualities to uphold our strong system of marriage.

    Dear Guruji, you have opened our eyes, hearts and mind through this article and truly it serves as a complete guide for the Qualities of a
    Married Woman.

    I am sure all the readers including me are simple impressed by your contribution and I Pray Sri Guru Rayaru bless you with all your wishes and we request you to contribute with many such powerful and enchanting articles

    Thanks and Regards,

    Sri Krishaarpanamasthu


  3. “Oh MOTHER ! You are ALL KNOWING ! DOUBTS , QUERIES do not emanate for the fully knowledgeable person ! YET your query is not for the clearance of doubt , many satvik people have these doubts and you want them to be clarified through me and hence you have asked this question ! AND thus it is my duty to answer this !”

    Respected Acharya,

    This is the foremost sign of a true knowledgeable stree. This much answer itself portrays the immense knowledge of Shastras of Draupadi devi. Only a person who has understood Shastras correctly with absolute knowledge of taratamya, would reply like this. This knowledge to Draupadidevi should have come from a Guru. The Guru for Draupadidevi would be her husbands, the Pandavas. Hence this reply also illustrates the Gyana she received and the attention she must have paid to understand this deeply. This also illustrates the absolute knowledge about Shri Krishna in the heart and mind of Pandavas, their dharma pradhanta and their karma pradhanta. If they did not possess this knowledge, it would not flow down to their wife.

    An ignorant stree bereft of knowledge of Shastras and the absolute truth of Taratamya, this question from ShriMahalaxmi would boost her ego and she might be right on the “Chane ka jhaad”, thinking she is the all knower and that she is teaching Laxmidevi. Draupadi devi excellently portrays control on her senses and acknowledges the fact foremost as her obedience to Shri LaxmiKrishna that such a question is only for knowledge of the common man and that they are all knower of everything.



  4. Acharya Namaskars,

    Your posts teach us about way of living for attaining higher spirtual level.Even if we follow some of the duties laid down by Madhva shastra our lives become worthy.Stree Dharma shows how compassionate was Draupadi devi she was avatar of Bharatidevi.She forgave Ashwathama acharya for killing her sons,and asked Bheemasena devaru to spare Ashwathama acharyas life just because he was a guru putra and son of Brahmin.Such was the respect given to Brahmins and their progeny.This itself shows such a devotion to Mukhyaprana and Sri Krishna.


    • diamonds find highest glory and radiance when in company of gold ! So are the golden contributions of HARIPRASAD , HRISHIKESH PRAMOD ANON KAMAL SONU PRAVEEN RAO and many others which is increasing the radiance of SHASTRA putforth !


      • Acharya Namaskars,

        Many thanks for your blessings.
        Its just because of your blog we do mannana of whatever we have learnt.
        Many thanks


      • Hariprasad Alur said:


        On behalf of readers, I would like to mention our regards and the position we hold you. As I’ am not capable, I take recourse to what Vijayadasaru and other Dasa shresta have mentioned.





        Finally, I’ am tempted to say:



        Humble Regards


  5. Dear Guruji,

    As always your article touches my soul. The negativity in me gets thrown away by reading this article.



  6. Dear Sir

    One who is not aware of the true magnanimity of the divine can only begin to comprehend such true and deep essence only after listening to such narrations. In our culture women are held in highest esteem this narrative indicates why. One cannot expect to gain any prosperity or knowledge without giving proper respect towards women, only by worshiping mothers Mahalakshmi and Bharati can one expect any upliftment. May women, Bharati and Mahalakshmi always bless us with knowledge, bhakti and prosperity.

    Sincere Pranaams
    Hare Srinivasa.


  7. no words to express. every man and woman should read this blog. a must at these troubled times. amritam,amritam,amritam.


  8. Guruvar,


  9. Hare Srinivasa,

    Even though, I know this story; I enjoyed reading this thoroughly. Chiraanavre your attention to details is immaculate, your presentation style and simplicity is mind boggling. After reading each of the articles, I experience the immense depth of your profound knowledge. Like the devtas drinking amrutha after Samudra manthan, we readers are truly blessed to read this divine amrutha blog from your sagara like knowledge.

    May your tribe ever increase and may Sri Hari Vayu Gurugalu shower their blessings and affection on you and your family.

    Sashtanga Pranam to you Acharya, Namon Namaha !

    Jai Bharteesha,


  10. Nice article Guruji :)))


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