Context: Should one leave their non-cooperative or adharmic spouse?
a story of BRAMHANA whose wife was kidnapped !
Once upon a time there lived a king called Uttam. Uttam was son of great Uttanpada! He married a beautiful princess called Bahulla!
Uttam was fascinated by his wife, he never thought about any woman other than Bahulla. His aasakti toward Bahulla was so much that he would lose his senses once he touched her. He, thus, always abided by her words. On the contrary, Bahulla never cared for his love. She was just not interested in him and never cared for his presence. When king was eating if he would catch her hand and compel her to eat something she would very uninterestingly have little food and get up and move away. When king in fully inebriated condition would want her company she would release herself from him and move away.
She did not participate in any of his activities and was completely pratikool to him! Yet king only loved her and was mad about her. In one big occasion when all kings were invited and beautiful song were sung by danseuse in the sabha, king offered a glass of madira to his wife, which she refused in full presence of kings. King immediately called his guards and in anger asked his wife, the queen, to be dropped in dense forest alone and deserted her!
At the same time there lived a brahmin, by the name of Susharma, in the same kingdom, he had an abusive wife. Daily the brahman was engaged in nitya karma. One day, even with his door being locked the bramhans wife went missing! Brahman went to the king and demanded help to look for his wife!
King Uttam said, “I have not seen your wife, who has abducted your wife that you must know else how I can find her!”
Brahman said, “she is a lady not so beautiful, of karkash/harsh speech, she is a very cruel woman with cruel looks, irregular face, small breasts, lean waist and long stomach. She is very tall and has short limbs. She is past the prime of youth.
While we were sleeping the doors windows were locked from inside still somehow someone has abducted her! You must find her else my nitya karya is hampered. Without her my dharma is incomplete. Since, as a king, you take 1/6th of our dharma, in return for our protection and it is because of you promising our safety that we all sleep tension-free during the night. So it’s your duty to find her. Else my not being able to do nitya karma is sin on to you!”
King said, “Why are you after such a woman who is cruel and non-cooperative and abusive? What happiness will you have from her, I shall give you another beautiful woman who will give you happiness full of good features and cooperative, why don’t you live happily with another woman?
Brahman said, “Vedas say wife should be looked after irrespective of any situation/under all circumstances. Because wife is dharma patni, that is her first and most important good quality that she enables grahastha dharma, which gives bramhaloka. My dharma is intact because of presence of dharma patni [whether she is abusive or non-cooperative, even with such bad qualities, she has made me eligible for dharma karya]. Secondly, dharma patni gives santaana, a man is born himself as child in her womb.. This gives pitru shanti and anugraha. By deserting her and not looking after her there is maximum possibility of vanra sankarya sankeerna santaan, who will bring pitrus down from swarga. So, looking at all these aspects of dharma having a wife [as she is] and looking after her is important. So get me my wife it’s your duty so that I can resume my nitya dharma! Just as a wife does not leave husband at any cost, similarly, a man should not leave his wife at any cost!”
King set out to look for the wife of brahman [he was the king of the entire bhumandala, yet he set out all alone and not send his army, brahman karya should be done by self].
King entered deep jungles and there after tiresome hunt found a muni ashram, where tapasavi muni was sitting in dhyana. When he got up from dhayna and sees the king and asked his shishya to get arghya paadya and asan for the king! Sishya said, “Acharya kindly inspect whether this king is fit for arghya paadya and then if you still instruct I shall bring arghya!” Both guru and shishya were trikaal gyaani. After a little more dhyana the muni asked the shishya to only only give asan to the king!
Then muni said to the king, “I know why you have come, the brahmans’ wife has been abducted by the rakshasa by name Balaak. If you go deeper into the forest you shall find her there.”
King said, “Oh muni, if you don’t mind my asking I shall like to ask why was I denied arghya and paadya? I feel that I am an eligible abhyagat [not atithi]. If that is the case, then if that be then I must have done some great sin. What is that sin that I have committed?
Muni said, “oh king being from the lineage of great Swayambhu Manu and son of Uttanpada, you indeed are eligible for arghya and hence I ordered one earlier, but my shishya is also trikaal gyani, he insisted on seeing your immediate past! You have deserted your wife. A person who has stayed away from nitya karma for 15 days is akin to asprushya but it’s been nearly one year you have not done nitya karma [due to absence of wife]. So you are not eligible for arghya paadya. And also go soon and get the brahman’s wife so that he also doesn’t suffer any further loss of dharma!”
King went deep into the jungle and there he saw a woman exactly as described by the brahmana enjoying and eating fruits in a garden. King asked are you the same lady as brahman described are you wife of Susharma?” The woman said, “Yes.”
“Who has brought you here?”
“A rakshasa has brought me here but neither has he eaten me nor misbehaved with me! Strange, but he stays litte inside the forest where you can meet him.”
King went inside and saw a huge rakshas, who immediately got up and gave arghya paadya to king and requested the king to take and asana and asked him, “Oh great king, I live in your kingdom so I am your servant kindly let me know how is it that I can serve you, please give me an order. I am at your service.”
King asked, “You have done a good satkaar with shastrokta arghya paadya. You seem to have beautiful women in your palace. So why did you abduct this brahmani’s wife who is not even a beautiful women, and you have not eaten her yet? Why?”
Rakshasa said, “King! We are not man eating rakshasas! Those rakshasas are different! We eat only punya phala of the people. Not only that when a woman or man shows disrespect to us we then eat his good qualities or bad qualities, we don’t eat flesh, nor do we eat living people! If for any reason we have eaten a person’s forgiving nature then person becomes hard hearted and dushta and becomes krodha swavabhaav person. If we eat anyone’s dushta swabhaav then he becomes a one of very good qualities. Maharaaj I have many apasara like strees in my house, so i don’t get attracted to human women.”
King asked, “If this brahmani was not fit for your consumption then why did you bring here from the brahman’s house!”
Rakshasa said, “That brahman is shreshtha Brahman, he is nitya yagnya parayana, whenever we tried to stay there his rakshogna mantra pathana stopped us and sent us very very far away! But then I was very hungry too what will I eat if such mantras are used. My ucchatana was happening every day, as this brahman was taking part in yagnya everyday. So I caused distress [udvega] in the mind of the Brahman because without wife he will not be able to do any yagnya!”
Listening to those words king felt as if he has been slapped on his face, he thought to himself, is this rakshasa hinting at me too, even I have left my wife. Earlier it was the muni who said no arghya now this rakshasa is saying udevga. Seems that everything is directed at me.
Rakshasa said, “Oh king, any seva for me!
King said, “Oh rakshasa if you treat me as an aththi and want the athithi to be happy and his desire be fulfilled, fulfill this wish of mine and make me happy. As you have just said you can eat both good and bad qualities, so eat the dushta virodha swabhava of this stree and making qualities of this woman. So that she becomes good and send her back to her husband’s house immediately.
Rakshasa entered the body of the brahmani and with his special abilities ate her bad qualities. Thus, the brahmani became free of her dushta swabhava. Then she said to the king, “Oh maharaaj! I have been punished only by my own karma pahala and kaal prabhaav, this rakshasa is only a nimitta. I have separated people from their loved ones, caused disturbance to couples’ life in previous life so I have suffered this state. One reaps what one sows, so no use blaming anyone for any fault. I forgive this rakshasa. And she was left back into the house of Brahman.
King said. “Oh rakshasa, now I want you to be present anytime I call you, this is my second order to you.”
King thought, I have also deserted my wife, what should I do now? I should go and ask the solution to the same trikaal gyani muni.
Muni said, “I have known all your recent works, now you want to know your extra course of action so listen! Patni is the only means for dharam artha kaam, deserting patni is like deserting dharma. Brahman akshatriya vaishya shudra whoever deserts his wife he becomes ineligible for karmanushthana. Just as woman cannot desert his husband under any circumstances so also man should not desert his wife.”
King said, “What should I do now muni? I think it’s all my poorva janma phala, I had always loved to her. She herself was cooperative to me at all, as she didn’t like me. Hence, I had to desert her. Even now I am suffering because of her separation [I have not remarried nor have I even thought of anyone even in dreams] just for that love I have even forgiven her all misdeeds too. But how will I get back my wife who has been left in dense forest? What if any wild animal has eaten her or some rakshasa might has eaten her?”
Muni said, “Neither any wild animal has eaten her nor any nishachar has eaten her. She remains chaste and is safe in rasatal.”
King asked again, “Brahma gyani! Who has taken her there? And what has saved her from not being taken by anyone till now [safety from kalanka, how is she chaste till now] let me know yathartha!”
“There is one nagaraj by name Kapoth, took her captive and took to her patala. There nagkanya Manorama the wife of Kapoth who has a daughter by name Nanda. Nanda thought that this woman (your wife) woman might become a stepmother if not taken away from the sight of her father. With that fear she took your wife and hid her in the antahpur. When her father, Kapoth, asked where is Bahulla, Nanda did not answer. In anger, Kapoth cursed his daughter to be dumb. Even though cursed she protected Bahulla in her own house,” informed the muni.
The king happy at that asked, “Oh! Muni I have so much love and affection from various people no one hates me or defies me! So why is it that my wife does not have anuraaga in me? What is the reason for it? I love my wife more than my life but she only uses harsh words towards me? Why?”
Muni explained that at pnigrahan kale [i.e. at the time of marriage], king’s lagna was aspected by sun mars and Saturn and Jupiter and Venus were in eighth. Additionally, in the muhurta lagna both Moon and Mercury were in seventh. So, one had to undergo so many troubles in married life. But then the muni blessed the rajah to have a good life from then on.
King went and met the brahman.. Bramhan blessed him and said, “King, you are dharma nishtha rajah so you have given me my wife back.”
King said, “No, you have in fact given me kartavya bodha.”
Then brahman asked, “Why don’t you marry another woman?”
King said, “No my wife is alive and chaste so how could I marry another woman?”
Brahman asked, “If she is chaste then you should bring her back?”
King said, “She is not at all happy with me so what use is it to bring her back. When she doesn’t have any love left for me? Oh Brahman, is there any way for my problem can you suggest a way out so that she would love me again?”
Brahman said, “Oh maharaj! I will do yagnya anushthana for you to get back the love and anuraga of the queen. This is known as mitravinda yagnya.
One must do ansuhthana of this yagnya for increasing love and affection between stree and purusha this yagnya has shakti to bring more and more prema between the couples. So maharaj bring back your wife don’t worry she will be ever attached to you thereafter and you will also be in tune with dharma!”
King made arrangements for the yagnya. Bramhana did one after the other seven yagnay to increase prema anuraaga for the royal couple.
Queen had a change of heart she started feeling positive love for the king. When brahman was confirmed about his success in his yagnya he asked king to bring back his wife and live a peaceful life. King was surprised at the confidence of Brahman. Then he remembered and summoned adrinandan Balaak. Ballak went to pataal and brought the queen back through his maya. Quen having seen king after long time said, “Oh king, please be pleased with me!”
King said, “Oh lovely one you need not request me that way! I have always loved you and am ever happy with you! ”
Queen said, “Oh king, if you are really happy and pleased with me, then please do a favor. I shall be always indebted to you!”
King said, “Anything for you is never a burden for me, I shall always strive to bring whatever you wish for, it will be my pleasure!”
Queen said, “Oh king! For me my friend has to even bear a curse, she has become dumb, I cannot see her like that. Kindly, if it’s in your hands, please get her voice back!”
King looked at the brahman Susharma and requested thus, “Oh viprottama! Is there any way this can be done?”
Brahman said, “I shall do Sarswat-ishti and she would get back her voice.”
Bramhan did the yagnya and in pataala Nanda regained her voice.
Garga muni doing tapasya in patal said to Nanda, “Your friend Bahulla has done this upakaara on you!” On hearing this Nanda went running to the king’s capital. Having embraced Bahulla, she said, “You are really a great soul. For you both a great son will be born.”
When a son was born to the king he had beautiful uttam avayava, kaanti and tejas. On seeing him rishis said, at uttam time in uttam kingdom, to a uttam couple with fathers name as uttama, for the uttam kalayaa of the people a uttama jeevi has taken birth so he be called “Outtam”. Thus, started outtam manvantara with Outtam manu.
To make sure that such rakshasas eat negative qualities in us and leave the positive qualities intact one must do nitya pooja that is the only solution.
Context: Should one leave their non-cooperative or adharmic spouse?